Narrative: Introduction



Many people wonder: Where do I begin when they get the chance to tell their story. Since I work with people every day, I have heard many variants, and I will personally choose the `overview` variant to give you an idea of who I am and how I became that way. I am already, in the age of 26 (27 tomorrow) eager to share my story, and hope this might give me many fascinating stories in return.

I have always been interested in other people. I guess that explains hours spent on movies, reading and reality shows. Today I work with what I love, talking to people from 8-16 as a therapist. People often ask : Don’t you get tired of it? My answer still is: No! Even if I read hundred books, I never get tired of that either. Some books are better than others of course, but I love it when I find something that manage to surprise me, and humans never stop to amaze me. Every person has their own personality, that you usually grasp automatically based on intuition, that unexplained x-factor that make you love and hate, sometimes because of unknown reasons. To hear how someone became like they are, is like opening a gift box. You may have an inkling of what might come, but it never ceases to surprise me. It can be a touching description of somebody’s day, for example how they worried that their mother would be hit by a car, or a summary of their childhood. It can be how they talk, dress and behave, and even better, when you get to share a moment of transformation in the therapy room.
I feel in many ways that I have an essence, but outwardly and inwardly I have also changed a lot. When I look at video-camera footage of myself, I almost get a bit ashamed. Was that me? How could I be so obnoxious? The same thing happens when I look at my writing from back then. I could not understand what I did wrong, now it blinks and announces itself with great vigor, and I have to smile at how pleased I was then.

I hope my life story will be an inspiration and a journey inside my mind. It’s full of sad, happy and normal memories, but I know nobody out there has exactly the same story as me, in that case I would like to meet you very much! If you have questions along the way, please feel free to ask.



10 thoughts on “Narrative: Introduction

    Bourbon said:
    May 8, 2013 at 13:57

    Hi there,
    Thanks for stopping by my blog and following. I have had a quick look around your site and it looks wonderful, very interesting, and I think I am going to really enjoy catching up with it! I’m glad you came across me as that means I have come across you. Onto the reading… 🙂 take care x

      mirrorgirl responded:
      May 8, 2013 at 16:01

      I was looking through some blogs, not stopping to read too many, but when I came to yours, I found myself stopping and reacting. I knew this would be an important blog for me, and know I am even more sure. I am curious about your story but know it will be a tough read. But I don`t care about that, you had to live it. Thanks for reading my posts, and the positive feedback. It really means a lot.

      Look forward to reading and thinking together with you

        Bourbon said:
        May 8, 2013 at 16:29

        Thank you. I find with my blogging is I go over a lot of the same ground repetitively. Long term readers probably have heard it all before but with the state of my memory and with my level of processing abilities that is just what I need to do and ultimately this blogging is for my healing. I was very interested in reading all your narrative. I am also very interested in that you have become a psychologist. That used to be my goal, and actually you are only a couple of years older than I. I’m interested in how you became a psychologist and how you are finding it. Is that on your blog somewhere?

        mirrorgirl responded:
        May 8, 2013 at 16:38

        that is the next part of my narrative, that I have some problems with, since next one will be about my toughest period in life (besides the one I`m in now). I didn`t even want to become a psychologist, I never thought I could actually help somebody, and that someone else deserved the place more. I was afraid I couldn`t handle the toughest stories, and now I have many of the trauma cases in my job, and I still only get energy from working with it (because it gives meaning, and so much joy when they start to take care of themselves). It is never impossible to become what you want. In Norway we have a famous psychologist who spent almost all her life in psychiatric wards, and she had schizophrenia (Arnhild Lauveng).

        In Norway you have to study for 6 years to become a psychologist, but its worth it 🙂

    Bourbon said:
    May 8, 2013 at 16:41

    Yes, 6 years sounds about right. I went through the psychology undergrad and got that degree but by the end I’d pretty much decided I don’t want to be an actual psychologist after all! Great that you get so much satisfaction from your job. It sounds like you’re a good psychologist to have on your side. Just from what I’ve read it sounds like you’re very down to earth and aware.

      mirrorgirl responded:
      May 8, 2013 at 16:59

      Can I ask what made you decide to not go in that direction?
      Thank you, dear. I do fight for the people that come to me 🙂

        Bourbon said:
        May 8, 2013 at 17:03

        Absolutely. I guess when I was planning to be a psychologist I had it in my head that I was going to be “cured” by that age. At the time I thought I just had a few chronic phobias and depression. I honestly got through my teens believing I would be better by 25. Turns out I’m not better, in fact I am only just understanding what my TRUE problem is: DID. The phobias etc were just covering up the DID and PTSD stuff and I have absolutely no energy to work with anyone else whilst I still have so much to sort out within myself. When I eventually feel well enough to go back to work I think I will probably be working with animals! I need to keep my external life as stress-free and easy as possible whilst my internal world is so chaotic.

        mirrorgirl responded:
        May 8, 2013 at 17:33

        I thought I had replied to this.

        How has it been to live that way ? I am getting an idea, and probably you can`t even sum it up here, but I have always been bold and ask too much. Some of the people I work with say that its almost like it gets normal for them, sometimes they are surprised that other people react.

        You are wise to save energy for the important things. It takes a lot of energy to keep your head up and to control everything inside you.

        Helping animals must be a really wonderful job. Of course, animals can sometimes be so cute that it hurt to look at them, and when you also can help them and maybe even save them, that must be true bliss.

        Here you have some cute animals:

    digitalhegemon said:
    June 11, 2013 at 08:29

    Merci de suivre mon blog. d–0.o–b

    Still not giving in | Free psychology said:
    July 5, 2013 at 11:26

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